Comments on built-in birth control: endo-wah?

I'm an only child and it took my parents a lon...

2010-02-01T01:03:53.258-05:00

I'm an only child and it took my parents a long time to have me. Growing up, I was told that they had to seek professional help to have me. They would never tell me why, although when I asked if I was an in vitro baby they said no. I always assumed it had something to do with Dad's swimmers, since they seemed embarassed about it when I probed for more reasons on why I have no siblings.

But then one day my mother and I were having a conversation, and I mentioned that I thought someone at work had endometriosis. And my mother said "So? I had that too," and I was like "yeah, yeah, but..." and went on to make my point. Her words only hit home after our conversation was over. WHAT? My mother had endometriosis and never thought this was worth mentioning?

She has never brought it up since, and it aggravates me. Seems like something like that... is something you should tell your daughter, especially before she gets married and starts thinking about having a family. What if I had had it too, and never knew to get myself checked out??

PS Yes, my hubs does have CDs. Email me at lastcha...

2010-01-31T19:49:38.903-05:00

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That is such an interesting and awful story. I'...

2010-01-31T19:48:08.917-05:00

That is such an interesting and awful story. I'm so sorry you went through all of that.
I have stage III/IV endo myself. I don't think I have suffered nearly as much as you have, but interestingly enough, when I get cramps my leg hurts...I wonder if some rogue endo presses on a nerve during AF or something..anyway, TMI probably but still, so weird.

The ironic thing is that I, at the age of 26, went to my OB/GYN and said I wondered if I had endo based on my symptoms and if I should start trying to get pregnant then, versus going back to grad school and delaying for four years or so. He said, "no problem, go to school, you're young! and the only way to diagnose endo is with a lap and we're not going to do that for no reason."
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I have always always wondered if they had found it then, if I had known, if I would have had a better chance. Granted, at 26 I wasn't ready for parenthood but if the alternative had been nearly five years of unsuccessful fertility treatments, well, I might have gone for the young and inexperienced parent role.

OK, sorry to hijack this comments section with a mini biography on me :)

Thanks for sharing more of your story.