clarified

just kind of a continuation of last night's post where i was too tired and too emotionally drained to properly explain the links so i just kind of threw them in haphazardly hoping that you would find them. 

*the first link 
is on mourning miscarriage by an author who had one, sadly, when she was in japan for work. she discusses the japanese way for dealing with miscarriages and is comforted by their way of honoring the unborn. it is, if nothing else a new way to look at this most underestimated of losses. 

*the second link 
is from a blog i just found of a writer who has had 7 miscarriages. 
7. miscarriages. 
7.
she wishes she knew if she was mourning sons or daughters. she is hurting for focus, an understanding, something more than just a memory of pain. poor thing, grieving so heavily and living in this culture where miscarriage is shrugged off, accepted as commonplace. 
i just wanted to hug her. especially when i read this. it's needless to say that im a subscriber now, and i think you should go on over and support her if you don't already.

i wanted to also share this link with anyone who might think they would like to give their loss a name and honor them in a very special way. 
i love to think of how many families this remembrance will help. here they can create a focus, help make their child, or their connection to even a very small bundle of cells that would have been their child important in the grand scheme of things. honor the gleam of happiness and hope they once held so dear. possibly even gain a little bit of closure. i hope anyway.